tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7577217529876781375.post363709640893582683..comments2023-09-25T06:38:06.292-04:00Comments on Book Faery: (Day 8) Guest Post: Andrea CremerTori [Book Faery]http://www.blogger.com/profile/10814935817409616951noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7577217529876781375.post-7011709685887000412010-08-29T21:11:48.478-04:002010-08-29T21:11:48.478-04:00I keep seeing this cover all over the place. Thank...I keep seeing this cover all over the place. Thanks for offering the giveaway. I lost my connection while entering and might have entered twice by mistake.Reena Jacobshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16860984511692822921noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7577217529876781375.post-26794372004030045592010-08-20T04:39:02.437-04:002010-08-20T04:39:02.437-04:00This is a great post and a fantastic giveaway. I r...This is a great post and a fantastic giveaway. I really want to read this one.Ladytink_534https://www.blogger.com/profile/14317480621483829078noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7577217529876781375.post-86251515121202659992010-08-17T13:20:14.200-04:002010-08-17T13:20:14.200-04:00I love, love, love this post!!! Especially as a YA...I love, love, love this post!!! Especially as a YA Romance writer, I'm astounded by the unrealistic sexual limits put on female protags so they can still be considered "likable". Then many male protags in contemporary YA get to express their horny thoughts and sexual conquests in more realistic ways and still be considered "nice boys" in the end. Female protags should be allowed the same level of thoughts, experimenting and fumbling when it comes to their sexual experiences. Otherwise how will the protag learn and grow?Jennifer Hoffinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07616744694563644199noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7577217529876781375.post-8425425520571895912010-08-13T09:01:49.567-04:002010-08-13T09:01:49.567-04:00Let me be the male voice here. There is something ...Let me be the male voice here. There is something charming about the virgin girl in a novel, but I find most of these scenes are so unrealistic. First time sex is usually awkward and disappointing--even painful. These romanticized encounters must leave teen readers feeling inept when they actually have their first sexual experiences. In my writing, from the male perspective, I never say if the girl was a virgin or not, and the experience tends to be more clinical. And, since my male characters are usually not in very good places mentally, the girl tends to dictate the action in bed. Even when he takes charge, he's insecure about it. I also use the male description of sex to show where the guy is mentally. Graphic sex, it's about just that. True love, much more restrained, maybe no details at all. That's how real guys are, so that's how the characters should be. But I agree, all these fantasy experienced heroes pleasing the virgin--come on! They're high school kids. They probably ate Doritos after and watched Jersey Shore. www.wiliamfriskey.com www. williamfriskey.blogspot.comWilliam Friskeyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13892220496102673299noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7577217529876781375.post-3243434094055831342010-08-13T07:17:22.202-04:002010-08-13T07:17:22.202-04:00I agree with this post. Every story I've read ...I agree with this post. Every story I've read about a girl is about the girl getting taken advantage of or being duped and naieve about sex. I kind of want to read a book where the guy is inexperienced and the girl has the audacity to you know, enjoy her life.Najelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03529650047480022627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7577217529876781375.post-7129726551186309392010-08-11T16:15:44.372-04:002010-08-11T16:15:44.372-04:00I couldn't agree with you more and wish that m...I couldn't agree with you more and wish that more people shared your opinion.My Life With Books - Jennifer K Jovushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03556830006820975892noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7577217529876781375.post-72001621604486873462010-08-09T21:44:29.806-04:002010-08-09T21:44:29.806-04:00This. Is. Excellent! I've noticed the same dis...This. Is. Excellent! I've noticed the same disturbing trend and it's upsetting! Boys are "men" if they "get laid" but girls who "give it up" are "sluts"? Like Andrea said: No. Just no. It's disgusting and despicable and this world hasn't come as far as it likes to think it has. Ugh. Thank you for speaking up! Great post!Casey (The Bookish Type)https://www.blogger.com/profile/17124722748517656056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7577217529876781375.post-91843171690294898242010-08-08T23:39:18.415-04:002010-08-08T23:39:18.415-04:00Great post.
Oddly, I deal with a different kind ...Great post. <br /><br />Oddly, I deal with a different kind of issue. Since I write m/m, I have to deal with the fact that gay men are stereotyped as overly sexual and promiscuous. Can be hard to find in writing a strong, monogomous m/m romance or main characters who have a lot more on their mind than sex and sexuality.<br /><br />And what about male virgins? Can't it be okay for a male to not have sex before he's 18? <br />What about asexuals who don't have interest in sex at all (like me)?<br /><br />Great post and plenty to think about in the future.Dawn Embershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00214560861614476799noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7577217529876781375.post-90862415962288164392010-08-08T15:47:28.264-04:002010-08-08T15:47:28.264-04:00Great closing line. :) This post is extremely rele...Great closing line. :) This post is extremely relevant, and makes me want to go out and write that saucy, kick-ass heroine.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7577217529876781375.post-47898910942898558622010-08-08T13:55:35.971-04:002010-08-08T13:55:35.971-04:00OHMYGOODNESS, yes!OHMYGOODNESS, yes!Hannah S.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06881791620136892754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7577217529876781375.post-22659374179913749572010-08-08T11:39:21.586-04:002010-08-08T11:39:21.586-04:00Yeah, Andrea. Gotta agree with you that story of t...Yeah, Andrea. Gotta agree with you that story of the lady and the so-called "hero" that doesn't sit well with me, either. Ick. I've written shy, reserved heroines, but I'd *never* make her fall in love with a rapist. Just...ick.Juli D. Revezzohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13240810668385584589noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7577217529876781375.post-18095826507870505102010-08-08T07:58:42.890-04:002010-08-08T07:58:42.890-04:00You hit the nail right on the head here, Andrea. W...You hit the nail right on the head here, Andrea. What an excellent post and I'm so happy someone has stood up and commented about it.<br />While a lot of YA females are virgins, it shouldn't be a huge issue if they're not or if, God forbid, they kiss and touch more than one guy throughout the novel.<br />If a guy can do it, why can't a girl? Gotta love Sex and the City for making promiscious women the norm.Speech Delay Mammahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05601787057516846172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7577217529876781375.post-62672397756998969152010-08-08T02:02:21.846-04:002010-08-08T02:02:21.846-04:00I completely agree! That's one reason I love ...I completely agree! That's one reason I love the Riley Jenson series by Keri Arthur so much, she's sexually experinced but doesn't think bad of herself or let other think bad of her for it!Angela @ Reading Angelshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01444833786368414559noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7577217529876781375.post-1845437024478750212010-08-08T00:33:44.951-04:002010-08-08T00:33:44.951-04:00Great post! What I find the most frustrating is th...Great post! What I find the most frustrating is that it is readers that continue to perpetuate this nonsense. I've seen lots of posts on the Amazon romance forums about how the readers don't like it if their precious little heroines have "slept around" (defined as actually daring to have had sex - or even worse, liked it - with someone other than the hero). This makes me want to throw up. I just pray that these readers are grandmothers who grew up in a different age. Attitudes do change, but it usually requires a generation or two for that to happen.JenMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08381388317577838604noreply@blogger.com